Since it has been a while, I thought that I’d try to think of something to post. There are a lot of posts about traveling, the scenery, and my work. However, I realized I spoke very little about the culture. So, I thought that maybe I’d try to describe it a bit to give everyone an idea of the people and atmosphere of Cameroon, and specifically, Djohong.
I’ve had some very interesting conversations with Cameroonians, as well as some hilarious conversations with volunteers about their own experiences. One aspect of Cameroon that should definitely be brought up is sorcery. Everything is because of sorcery. When I went to the spot where there is cell phone service, and my phone didn’t get service, but the man next to me had 5 bars he looked at me and shrugged. “Sorry,” he mumbled barely glancing my way, “sorcery.” When my friend was walking and one flip flop broke, and then another step later her other one broke, it wasn’t because the quality of shoes here is terrible, rather it was sorcery. When rainy season started a bit late, it was because a sorcerer put a plug up in the sky. The appearance of a scorpion in my house- sorcery. And, apparently, sorcery is used to explain other things as well. My friend was telling me about her first couple of weeks in her village. During those first few weeks she encountered an “epidemic.” This “epidemic” was supposedly caused by Nigerians. When a Nigerian sorcerer shakes your hand, he potentially steals your penis. Apparently, this horror was spreading throughout her village. It was also in the capital city, Yaounde. Apparently, a man started screaming that this other guy in the market stole his penis. Some looked upon the scene with terror, some with amusement, and some with a mixture of both. They sent for his wife to check to see if his penis was stolen. She arrives, pulls him aside, checks to see if it was still there. She exclaimed with wide eyes that it was still there but that it wasn’t that small before. Certainly a bizarre epidemic to say the least.
I also had an interesting conversation with this man in village. He is educated and works for an American NGO. He asked me if I were to get married, if I would ever be someone’s 2nd wife in the States. I said, first of all, no. I will never be anyone’s second wife. And secondly, polygamy is illegal in the States. He looked at me with sheer shock and disbelief. He then asked me how the man deals with just one woman. I started laughing at his expression and then paused as I tried to think of how to answer this question. He didn’t give me a chance to respond, just started to shake his head in disbelief. He then asked, but how does that women give birth to many children, doesn’t she get tired of giving birth, raising, and nursing over ten children? I smiled and said that families are generally smaller in the States, with maybe 1 to 3 children on average. He was like so… the man really has to choose this woman carefully, since she’s the only one. I said yes, usually the man and women date for a while and make sure that marriage is right for them and that its what they really want. Dating- a whole other concept that required further explanation. I eventually left this man with him staring at me incredulously. I have many of these types of conversations on a weekly basis.
The families in Africa are generally very large. Potentially at least 2 wives, one man, and maybe around 10 children (some families are much bigger than this). The women tend to stay in the compound, doing the housework and caring for the kids. This job is, as always, a lot harder than it sounds. Close your eyes and imagine handwashing clothes for at least 4 of those children (they are probably babies), nursing, caring for children, disciplining (this happens pretty often), caring for your husband (doing his laundry and whatever else), dishes (of course, also done by hand), cleaning the house, and of course making the meals, usually cous-cous which is an incredibly laborious task taking several hours. This is also why, however, families have a lot of kids. Any adult can call a child over and send him/her on an errand. Sending them to the market, cleaning things, getting water, etc. When you have a lot of children, you have a lot of workers. While you are preparing food for the market or working in the fields, your slightly older children can do some of the housework. Because, yes I forgot that little aspect, the women also do most of the work in the fields. What do the men do, you might be thinking. Obviously, this depends, some do work in the fields, some work in boutiques, and some may work at the hospital or school. However, in general, many of the men do nothing. They sit in the center of town all day and chat. Chat about what? Who knows, I would think they would get bored but they seem quite comfortable with the way things are. No surprise there.
Most girls get to start this life pretty quickly. A young girl in my compound, around 14 years old, was just sent to Ngaoundal to be married. Fortunately, she will be the first wife, but nevertheless, she was understandably terrified to leave everything she knows for someone she has never met. More and more girls do get to go to school, and more do get to even finish school and possibly go the university.However, school costs money for each child to attend, and generally, it is the boys who get to finish school if at all. The girl in my compound made her choice when she asked her father if she could stop going to school. He definitely didn’t try to convince her to continue, if she doesn’t want to go to school then it was time for marriage.
When walking through village, with some of the kids at school or working, men lounging and women in the compounds or working, the village has a very relaxed feel to it. Everyone smiles at each other, says hello and usually it is only polite to sit down and have a 5 minute conversation with the person. Afterall, there is no rush. Time doesn’t exist here like it does in the States. Coming back from Fada with my friend Ibrahim, we stopped at each village to say hi to his friends. At one village we stopped and went to say hello to a friend, which resulted in us staying for an hour and a half, having buis ( a thick drink-like meal) and chatting for a while. This man didn’t have any furniture, only mats in a tiny mud hut. His clothes were worn and tattered, but well-cleaned. Because cleanliness is very important here, particularly shoes. He had very little for himself, for his own survival. And yet, at the end of our meeting, my new friend Limon offered me a bag full of bananas. The generosity, hospitality, and overall kindness here is sometimes difficult for me to wrap my mind around. Coming from a place where, generally, people crack open their doors to strangers, hear what they have to say and then quickly shut it to keep out whatever danger that person might bring, it still amazes me how many people open their doors to strangers here, or rides if the person has a far walk. Do they expect something in return? Probably, but probably just the same kindness in return if they needed it.
Anyways, I have rambled quite a bit. That’s a little taste of the people in my village. Extremely different, almost in every way, which means that sometimes its refreshing, sometimes its frustrating, sometimes its amusing, and sometimes its just freaking bizarre. However, it keeps things interesting.

